It was great to spend the day with Mentors and Mentorees at Hampton Park Baptist with the BUV Emerging Leaders program. Good to have a multi-generational and multi-ethnic group all interested in mentoring. Following is the presentation from the day and links to several of the handouts which can be used in mentoring. Links to files below:
Passing the Baton Seminar with Keith Farmer
Great to join Keith today for his Passing the Baton Seminar. Attached below is the presentation I gave on 4 Reasons to invest in being a Mentor.
In a recent study of effective mentoring of female leaders, 5 critical characteristics were identified. There are:
On 25th November I had he pleasure of participating in the final workshop for the MEQ 3 training program which Sally Jones and Peter Moore have facilitated 2014-2016 in Sydney.
Participants were warmly affirming of the training and spoke confidently about mentoring as an important part of their future ministry strategies. I praise God for another cohort of men and women equipped for this vital ministry.
Sally and Peter will be launching another three year training course in May 2017, and you can find the details at MEQ Training NSW.
This year I have been mentoring and journeying with pastors for 20 years. Over this time we have reflected together on hundreds of challenging personal and ministry issues. Mentoring does not provide easy answers in these areas of concern. It rather creates space for sharing, questioning, exploring and seeking creative pathways. In future posts I would like to share some resources in each of these areas. For now I will list the top 10 personal and ministry concerns raised with me by pastors I have mentored..
It has been great to be part of the conversations on resilience with the Australian Christian Mentoring Network.
There is a link to the keynote address by Dr Rick Lewis here on the ACMN website. www.tinyurl.com/Lewis-Resilience
Test your RQ (www.testyourrq.com)
Some of the resources we have shared are following:
There are many excellent resources on mentoring. Here is one I came across the other day built around the acronym MENTORING, (Model, Empathise, Nurture, Teach, Organise, Respond, Inspire, Network and Goal-set). Not a specifically Christian resource but an excellent overview.
Leadership and the Art of Mentoring
DR DANIEL WONG
Do pastors need mentoring? Aren’t they the ones who are to mentor others? Why is it crucial for pastors to be mentored? The biblical example, the challenges of pastoring, the importance of character development, and the need for encouragement are some reasons why pastors need mentoring.
The Biblical Example
Those in ministry need others who are more seasoned to provide guidance and support. It was Barnabas who was called to work with Saul, better known to us as the Apostle Paul. Barnabas got to know Paul, vouched for him before others, and worked alongside him in ministry. Then in turn, it was the Apostle Paul who worked with his mentee Timothy to provide him instruction on how to carry out ministry and use the gifts God had given him to serve as a pastor. Much of that mentoring was done by letter, as encompassed in 1 and 2 Timothy. Today, some of that correspondence might have been done by e-mail!
The Challenges of Pastoring
The nature of ministry easily makes it a highly stressful and challenging career. How many other careers are 24/7, involve the entire family with even designations like PK’s (Pastor Kids), and can encompass one’s whole existence where work life, family life, and personal life often intertwine? While everyone can evaluate stress-related life change using the Holmes-Rahe Social Readjustment Rating Scale, clergy and clergy spouses have additional Rating Scales to identify factors augmenting their stress.
Pastors are often like General Practitioners who need to have a wide range of knowledge and skills. No wonder the term “seminary” means “seedbed” where one only plants a foundation for ministry and then enters the school of experience.
The Importance of Cultivating Character
Externals – in numbers, dollars, and size, often measure ministry. The great temptation for pastors is to conform to chasing the externals more than cultivating character. Of course this begins with the pastor. The pastor is to lead by example.Character development takes intentionality and time that a mentor can help encourage and hold the pastor accountable. We hear of too many fallen pastors.There are those who have even fleeced the sheep! Ministry needs to flow from character. Mentors play an important role in prodding pastoral character development.
The Need for Encouragement
Pastors need encouragement as they are prone to get discouraged. Pastors often have great expectations for the congregation, expectations for oneself, and even for God to do a mighty work. These expectations can be unrealistic and even beyond what God might desire. It is often noted that pastoring is a lonely profession.Pastors need a mentor/companion to view the situation from the outside, to note what good things are happening, and to offer perspective and prayer support.Personally, I have mentored pastors for many years. Some have served as pastors or interns in my previous churches and those who serve in other churches. I not only provide encouragement to others but I myself am encouraged and inspired as well. The pastoral waterways are not an easy to navigate. A mentor is a spiritual guide along that journey. Even I myself have a mentor who is also a certified spiritual director who really points me to the ultimate source of hope and help, our God.
Daniel L. Wong is Assistant Professor of Christian Ministries, Tyndale University College & Seminary, Toronto To contact Dr. Wong, please use his e-mail address: email@example.com;
1. Effective mentoring is built on the credibility of the mentor and the confidence of the mentee in the value of the relationship.
While it is true that not all effective practitioners or leaders make good mentors, it is also true that a mentor must have some significant life experience in the area in which they mentor. If a mentor is working with leaders, there must be considerable reflective experience of leadership upon which a mentor draws. If mentoring is more in the area of spiritual formation, the mentor needs to have walked a journey with God. Mentoring is somewhat different to counselling in this regard. No one expects a counsellor to have personally faced all the psychological issues with which they work. With a mentor, there is an expectation that enough life experience has been acquired, integrated and reflected upon to give the mentor credibility to adapt this to build into the lives of others. A mentee needs to develop the confidence out of life sharing that they will grow through the relationship.