Seven attributes of an effective mentoring relationship

1. Effective mentoring is built on the credibility of the mentor and the confidence of the mentee in the value of the relationship.

While it is true that not all effective practitioners or leaders make good mentors, it is also true that a mentor must have some significant life experience in the area in which they mentor. If a mentor is working with leaders, there must be considerable reflective experience of leadership upon which a mentor draws. If mentoring is more in the area of spiritual formation, the mentor needs to have walked a journey with God. Mentoring is somewhat different to counselling in this regard. No one expects a counsellor to have personally faced all the psychological issues with which they work. With a mentor, there is an expectation that enough life experience has been acquired, integrated and reflected upon to give the mentor credibility to adapt this to build into the lives of others. A mentee needs to develop the confidence out of life sharing that they will grow through the relationship.

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Spiritual Mentoring Seminar–CS Lewis Institute

I have just come across the audio recordings and notes of 5 excellent sessions at a conference on Spiritual Mentoring hosted by the CS Lewis Institute back in 2011.

The presenter is Dr Tom Schwanda of Wheaton College, Associate Professor of Spiritual Formation. 

These are well worth a listen to.  The notes can also be downloaded. 

Spiritual Mentoring- How to Help Others Grow in Their Relationship with Christ – C.S. Lewis Inst

Every Pastor needs a Mentor – Rick Warren

Reposted from Rick Warren

Every pastor needs a mentor. No matter what stage you are in your ministry, you need someone to coach you.

All sorts of organizations use the mentoring process to make people better at what they do. In medicine, doctors mentor younger doctors. In music, musicians mentor other musicians. Why? It works. We learn best when we have people who can speak into our lives and ministry. Proverbs 19:20 says, “Get all the advice you can and be wise the rest of your life.”

I will always need a coach – no matter how old I get or how successful I become. Lebron James is one of the best basketball players on the planet. He still needs a coach. You will never get to a point in your life when you can say, “I’ve learned it all. I don’t need anybody else to help me.”

Foundation Level Mentor Equipping Training in Sydney 2014

mentoring 11Today I enjoyed the opportunity to spend the morning with a group of mentors who were completing their last training day of a three year training course.   It was great to hear their stories and reflections on training and those they are mentoring.

We are thrilled that a 3 year training program is running in Sydney again next year.   The course will use our Mentor Equipping process and materials.  It will be hosted by two experienced mentors, Sally Jones and Rev Peter Moore.

Please follow this link for the information brochure.

Applications can be processed online.

Biblical Foundations for Mentoring – ‘nouthetein’

large One of the Biblical terms that shapes the expression of mentoring today is ‘nouthetein’ – the verb meaning ‘instruction’ or ‘edification’.  It is used by Paul through his letters to encourage believers to respond to and to exercise pastoral teaching or spiritual guidance with one another.  The background of the term is important.  The context of its use is in family, household or close friendship environments where there is a relationship of trust, responsibility and particularly mutuality.  It has the implication of ‘honest and earnest but gentle admonition among friends’.  The contextual basis for nouthetein’ is always a caring committed covenant relationship with the other.  

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Advanced Mentoring Skills Training Sydney 2014

meq2Over the last two to three years, I have had a number of approaches from leaders involved in mentoring others to facilitate an update or advanced skills course.  This is finally getting underway in Sydney, being hosted by Peter and Ngaire Moore.  I will be doing the training for this program.  The advanced skills course assumes participants will already be mentoring and have had either some experience or some previous training.   We will not be covering the same material covered in the foundational level course. 

For a brochure please follow this link

Applications are welcome online, you will be contacted for an interview (most likely over the phone or internet) 

To apply or express interest online follow this link

A simple one page guide to mentoring

Help! I have been asked to be a mentor and I would love to say yes, but I don’t know what to do!

Mentoring another person is one of the greatest gifts you can give. It is an act of service, creating an environment where the person can share openly, deal with issues and grow. Mentoring does not require a degree or high level training (although training can make a significant difference in effectiveness). Anyone can mentor if they are willing to take the time to put some basic principles into practice.

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Leaving Well–A guide for working with people in transition

Making the decision to leave a church family is a difficult process filled with conflicting emotions, some positive and some negative. Once once a person has made the decision, the key task is to leave well.

It is easy in these situations for a person to think that the best thing to do is make a quick and clean exit in order not to hurt others. In fact, the opposite is the case. Quick exits often complicate the pain felt by everyone. It is analogous to a ‘sudden unexpected death’.

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