SMBC Mentoring Training–PC043

How Reframing Your Failures Will Actually Bring Success - LifehackGreat to be back up to Sydney yesterday to complete workshop 5 with the fourth cohort of students through our Mentor Equipping Course.  Notes are in our shared dropbox and the day’s outline in the Moodle Folder.  Workshop 5 focuses on carefrontation skills, reframing and helping mentorees gain insight into their mindsets.   The extended version of the powerpoint on anxiety has also now been uploaded. 

Seven attributes of an effective mentoring relationship

1. Effective mentoring is built on the credibility of the mentor and the confidence of the mentee in the value of the relationship.

While it is true that not all effective practitioners or leaders make good mentors, it is also true that a mentor must have some significant life experience in the area in which they mentor. If a mentor is working with leaders, there must be considerable reflective experience of leadership upon which a mentor draws. If mentoring is more in the area of spiritual formation, the mentor needs to have walked a journey with God. Mentoring is somewhat different to counselling in this regard. No one expects a counsellor to have personally faced all the psychological issues with which they work. With a mentor, there is an expectation that enough life experience has been acquired, integrated and reflected upon to give the mentor credibility to adapt this to build into the lives of others. A mentee needs to develop the confidence out of life sharing that they will grow through the relationship.

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Every Pastor needs a Mentor – Rick Warren

Reposted from Rick Warren

http://pastors.com/you-need-a-mentor-by-rick-warren/

Every pastor needs a mentor. No matter what stage you are in your ministry, you need someone to coach you.

All sorts of organizations use the mentoring process to make people better at what they do. In medicine, doctors mentor younger doctors. In music, musicians mentor other musicians. Why? It works. We learn best when we have people who can speak into our lives and ministry. Proverbs 19:20 says, “Get all the advice you can and be wise the rest of your life.”

I will always need a coach – no matter how old I get or how successful I become. Lebron James is one of the best basketball players on the planet. He still needs a coach. You will never get to a point in your life when you can say, “I’ve learned it all. I don’t need anybody else to help me.”

Who have been your mentors?

One of the exercises we ask our in-training mentors to complete is a reflection on who has built into their lives.  It is well worthwhile taking some time to think through who your mentors have been, what it is that they imparted to you, and how they did it.

Mentoring is not always intentional, neither is it always personal.  Some mentors are writers, theologians, musicians and poets who have no idea of what they have contributed to the lives of others. Some have been gone for some time.  One of the most influential men in my life is George Macdonald.  I have learnt much from his fiction, poetry and sermons.  While this is mentoring of sorts, it really doesn’t quite fit the concepts I sit most comfortably with.  These include a level of relationship and intentional input toward growth.

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