Website woes

Hi friends, My apologies to many who were trying to access materials over the weekend.  My four wordpress websites suffered a cyber attack on Friday last week which disabled all sites and closed off even my own access.  I had to take each of them down yesterday and rebuild them from scratch.  Thanks for your

Managing Parish Conflict–Diocese of Melbourne Clergy Conference 2014

It was good to catch up with friends in Melbourne this morning for a workshop at this year’s clergy conference.  I was given the topic of Parish Conflict – a bit of a regular with me these days.

Please read more to get access to the links to the powerpoint presentation and also the resources I referred to in the presentation.  A link has also been provided to the article on Conflict resolution within an Asian context.

10 reasons churches should be the experts in conflict resolution

As I work around church communities, it is quite confronting to recognise that churches are naturally conflict prone.  We should be leaders within our communities, knowing and demonstrating reconciliation practices and then ministering these to families and community organisations.  Instead we spend a lot of time denying and suppressing our own conflict and never really get good at dealing with it. So we end up being a conflict prone community which is also conflict averse.  Here is why we need to be experts.

Anglican Diocese of Brisbane–Diocesan Leadership Team Training in Conflict Management

I am enjoying a few days in Brisbane this week working with the leadership team of the Diocese of Brisbane.  The venue is St Francis’s Theological College.  A great place to be able to work for three days. 

Links to the notes for each day’s sessions are following:

Managing Parish Conflict – Anglican Dioceses of Adelaide and Willochra

I am enjoying a visit to the Clare Valley in South Australia reflecting on Conflict Management in Parishes with the Anglican Dioceses of Adelaide and Willochra.

The presentations and notes from the sessions are linked below.

Emotional Intelligence – Leadership and Conflict Resolution – reposted from Alban Institute

I have been working with conflicted congregations for 20 years this year.  I am increasingly convinced that Emotional Intelligence is key to conflict management.

http://www.alban.org/conversation.aspx?id=8616.

Emotional Intelligence and Effective Conflict Management, This Pair Can Make or Break Your Leadership

by Chris Gambill , Molly Lineberger

I was a young pastor, conscientious, concerned for my congregation and the unity of our church. So on that Sunday afternoon when John, an experienced deacon, showed up at my home unannounced, my antennae went up.

To forgive or not to forgive–is there a choice and who is it for?

One of the most challenging issues I face in my work with clergy sexual misconduct and church conflict is forgiveness. How many times have I heard something along the lines of “The scriptures instruct us to forgive one another, you should forgive her and just get over it” or “I know I will never be truly free and healed until I forgive him, but I just can’t do it. He destroyed my life and my best friend took his own life because of him, he has never acknowledged the wrong, even in prison. I can’t forgive him and I am stuck.”

Compared to other elements pastoral teaching like the call to exercise compassion, kindness, justice-seeking and truth-telling, the biblical material relating to forgiveness is actually quite complex for several reasons.

5 sources of congregational conflict

I have been consulting with conflicted congregations since 1994. I had seen and been involved in many situations before then.  Congregational conflict is common.  It helps a little, I think, to identify a handful of the key sources of conflict.  This enables us to be better prepared for what will normally unfold at some point in a churches life.

Bible Society Article on Church Conflict

Sophie Timothy from the Bible Society in Australia recently interviewed me for an article on Church Conflict.  You can find it here. How to deal well with conflict in the church (and not pretend it doesn’t exist)

Presentation to SAC 6 Conference on Conflict in Congregations

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