{"id":279,"date":"2016-03-28T06:07:00","date_gmt":"2016-03-28T06:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/johnmark.net.au\/ps\/?p=279"},"modified":"2016-04-17T06:11:53","modified_gmt":"2016-04-17T06:11:53","slug":"conflict-competencies-for-christian-leaders","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/johnmark.net.au\/ps\/?p=279","title":{"rendered":"Conflict Competencies for Christian Leaders"},"content":{"rendered":"

The following constructive behaviours have been shown in research to be associated with positive outcomes to conflict. The Destructive \/ Damaging behaviours have been shown to lead to significant escalation of conflict and poor resolutions and outcomes[1]<\/sup><\/sup><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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<\/b><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

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Constructive<\/b><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

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Damaging<\/b><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

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Active<\/b><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

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\u00b7 Perspective Taking
<\/b>The ability to listen to, understand and articulate the perspectives<\/b> offered by others <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Expressing Emotion<\/b>
The capacity to know, own and respectfully express<\/b> one\u2019s own emotions without blaming or attacking others (High EI) <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Generating Solutions<\/b>
The ability to think outside the box. To generate a range of different solutions<\/b> to a conflict besides one\u2019s own preferred solution <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Reaching Out<\/b>
The willingness to reach out<\/b> and initiate contact, conversation, and even to seek reconciliation (to offer and receive an apology) with others when there has been interpersonal hurt<\/p>\n<\/td>\n

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\u00b7 Winning At All Costs<\/b>
The tendency to use whatever source of power or manipulation that might be accessible to win at all costs regardless of the validity of others\u2019 concerns, needs or interests <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Displaying Anger<\/b>
The unregulated expression of anger and frustration in speech and actions (Low EI) <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Retaliating<\/b>
Retaliating and reacting to each hurt suffered in a conflicted situation <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Displeasing Others<\/b>
Being willing to displease and frustrate others simply to score points<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

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Passive<\/b><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

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\u00b7 Reflective Thinking<\/b>
The ability to think reflectively and objectively about the conflict, one\u2019s own contribution to it, and its history, dynamics and processes (Complexification) <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Delaying Responding<\/b>
The capacity to delay responding and to take time to allow emotions to settle before responding <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Adapting<\/b>
The ability to adapt, to be flexible and to compromise if needed to move toward resolution<\/p>\n<\/td>\n

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\u00b7 Self-Critising<\/b>
A tendency to invalidate one\u2019s own needs, interests and values by being self-critical and self-dismissive <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Hiding Emotions<\/b>
Hiding emotions and not letting others see how the situation is impacting self <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Avoiding<\/b>
Avoiding contact, communication and the invitation for reconciliation (Passive-aggressive stance) <\/p>\n

\u00b7 Yielding<\/b>
Giving-in and simply yielding to the other\u2019s position without engaging discussion and providing input to the decision<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

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[1]<\/a> Adapted from the Conflict Dynamics and Competencies model, Becoming a Conflict Competent Leader<\/u> by Craig Randle and Tim Flanagan, 2nd<\/sup> Edition, 2013, Jossey Bass.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The following constructive behaviours have been shown in research to be associated with positive outcomes to conflict. The Destructive \/ Damaging behaviours have been shown to lead to significant escalation of conflict and poor resolutions and outcomes<\/sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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